An Amazing Gift
The winter holidays are wonderful for some. They give way to fond times with family and friends. Making grand memories of food, friends, and fun seemingly endless over the November and December months maybe stressful, but it is a labor of love. When considering the good and happy parts of most anything there is almost always a flip side. Some do not fare well over the holiday season. They may not do well over most of the year. They may barely hold it together throughout the year and then the holidays come and then the bottom falls out emotionally for them. Stress, family expectations, work place drama, and memories of the past come flooding to the fore. The harsh realities of life as well as memories that are hard to cope with often overwhelm one already struggling.
Individuals are just as different as their DNA, fingerprints, thought patterns, and looks. It is not uncommon for us to tailor our views, opinions, and beliefs to fit our unique needs. Nothing is a miracle fix or cure. That is why there are so many popular self-help books, differing methods of treatments in the medical fields or psychology, and even in the complementary/alternative medical fields. This extends to forms of recovery ideologies and behavioral modification therapies available. The diversity is a wonderful development as it provides choice and alternatives for each individual.
Some feel a loyalty to one method or hold a belief that this is the only discipline that works well. Reality shows a better path. Individuals need the diversity. Just as it takes time to find the right treatment methods to progress; it takes time to find the right medications as well as dosage to work for each individual. Patience and persistence is the key. Sticking to the program, weathering out the lighter side-effects,(*1) resting better, and finding therapy of some kind that gives a positive outlet for the issues that you are struggling with can move the emotional mountains that seem insurmountable.
The holidays have passed, but the emotional toll may still be very present. A check up with the local mental health clinic can give one the needed boost for the New Year. We all set goals, make resolutions, and often ask ourselves what is the more important issues in our lives we wish to address in the upcoming year. Mental health clinics often have spin downs for low-income or no insurance patients. Some take state insurance or regular insurance. There are other options as well. Seeking help from your doctor or general practitioner can be a good beginning. Do not be ashamed to make a list of two or three items to try to help the doctor understand where you are emotionally, what you have been through, and if you have recently endured a trigger that has brought back strong feelings or negative self-talk. The doctor/practitioner can’t help you if they do not know what you are or have been going through.
If you are struggling with your emotions or know someone who is seek help or help them seek help. Be brave and try hard to understand it can become better. It can be a better year. You can make changes that are amazing. You have the power to give a gift to yourself – peace, better emotional health, a stronger resolve of self-care, an end to poor self-esteem, and a brighter future. The only things we as individuals can change is what pertains to us. We can change our clothes, our attitude, our level of knowledge, our belief system, where we live, how we live, and the way we treat ourselves or under normal situations allow others to treat us.(*2)
Only We have the ability to give An Amazing Gift of Change to ourselves.
*1. No one should feel impelled to weather serious or dangerous side effects – any such extreme side-effects should prompt and immediate call to the doctor or visit to the ER and medication discontinuance under doctor supervision.
*2. Staying in an abusive relationship or thinking someone will change because you love them or they are “good when….” is a form of delusional thinking women or men allow. It often stems from low self-esteem from being reared in an abusive atmosphere or an unstable home. It can be changed. There is help out there.
Below are educational resources to aid you in recovery.
Help for Mental Health Issues:
Help for PTSD:
Help for Bipolar:
Help for Anxiety:
- Brain and Behavior Research Foundation: http://bbrfoundation.org/anxiety?gclid=CJiJkPX34rQCFedxOgodjHUAJA
- Freedom From Fear: Anxiety and Depression http://www.freedomfromfear.org
Help for Depression: